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Motherhood: A Balancing Act

It is so easy to get lost in “motherhood.” To sometimes feel overwhelmed with the never ending in your head check lists, the heaping piles of laundry, the pick-up and drop-off times, the appointments, the 9-5, the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning. With everything. All of it. Half the time I am a mess of a person somehow getting by.

I struggle with balance. The balance as a mother and fulfilling the needs of my boys, the balance as a wife and fulfilling the needs of my husband and the balance as simply a human being and fulfilling the needs of me. As one can can attest to, putting a lot of effort in one area leaves other areas lacking, unfulfilled even and at risk for upsetting a probably already teetering balance.

For me, my needs are those that usually come last and fulfilling the needs of me are usually what’s most always lacking. Husband is a close second though and the boys always come first.

My day begins around six in the morning (and that includes still waking up at night with our very poor sleeping tot) and it ends around nine pm. No large percentage of my day is for me really. I often go to work with wet hair and most days have to donate my breakfast to the 7 year old who remembers his iPad but not that he’ll be hungry the moment we are at the point of no return to retrieve his. I’ve had to forgo my workout time to make enough hours at work and I always feel forgetful, stressed and rushed.

But don’t get me wrong. I am in no way complaining. I love my life. My boys, my husband, my life. My chaos. I am grateful for all of it. What I am trying to get at is that as mothers, we often forget that taking time for ourselves helps with that “fulfilling the needs of me” balance and even if 24 hours seems impossible to fit in “me time”, you need to make but a few minutes each day, or each week just for yourself. It makes for a happier and better, mother, wife, friend and in general human.

The one thing I do each and every day is my makeup. I don’t wash my hair, but I do do my makeup- priorities right?! It may seem silly and maybe even a little vain, but it truly is my passion. It’s my creative outlet. I love watching youtube videos (late at night when everyone is sleeping) and recreating looks and even putting my own spin on them. I collect makeup like it doesn’t expire…..

Most days its a “quick get me out the door look” and others a “I had a while to be creative look.” Part of having great makeup though is having a bright and fresh canvas and that means taking care of both my skin and smile. Because of the melasma I developed from both my infertility treatments and pregnancy, I have been better at taking care of my skin than I have my smile.

And as if they knew this,Β  Smile Brilliant reached out to me to see if I would be interested in trying out their whitening system. A professional quality at home teeth whitening system without needing to schedule another appointment?! Yes, please!


The process was actually super easy. Smile Brilliant sends you a kit with which you make your own molds with and mail back. Your custom whitening trays are then made from the molds and delivered back to you a few short weeks later. You then use a whitening gel and the trays from anywhere between 45 min and 3 hours.Also included is a desensitizing gel in case you are sensitive to whitening. I would pop mine in when I woke up and while I was getting ready (It is recommended you whiten at night, but I still had great results and it fit right into my hectic life) and doing my makeup for the day.


Results were a brighter/whiter smile!

Giveaway Details

Smile Brilliant is offering one of my readers/followers the opportunity to “fulfill the needs of me” and try out this entire system for FREE!

The giveaway is open for 1 week from today. The Giveaway is open to USA, UK, Australia, and Canadian residents.

You must submit your email here to be entered!

AlsoΒ $20 off trays coupon code: thisisourlifeblog
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*My whitening kit was gifted, but all thoughts are solely my own.

Tooth Whitening Gel


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    Nikki Dockery
    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 11:09 am

    Oh my gosh I can relate to this so much! I am constantly trying to do #allthethings, but like you, the one thing I do EVERY SINGLE DAY is my makeup! Even though I stay home with my boys and work from home, I need to have my makeup on! It makes me feel ready to conquer the day!

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    This looks amazing ! We need to take care of ourselves to his mothers right

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    I do my make everyday too. Even if it’s just a little mascara and lip gloss there is just something about it that makes me feel good. I love this product for your teeth. White teeth is where it’s at!


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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    I want to try this so bad! I used to have custom whitening trays but the dog got ahold of them. #momlife.

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      Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 8:32 pm

      Ah. man! Nothing is ever safe with kids/dogs haha. Well in that case sending you good vibes to win the giveaway. Don’t forget to enter!

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    I love that leopard clutch!

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    I need to check this out so badly! Have been trying to decide which kind to try. Thanks for this!

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    Wow your photos look amazing! I’m always trying to do a lot all together! Congrats on your collab ;D

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    Thursday, November 16, 2017 at 10:33 pm

    such gorgeous makeup!! you look awesome

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    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 2:32 am

    Okay – I know it’s off topic but girl your makeup is on fire!! Love it!


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      Friday, November 17, 2017 at 3:00 am

      Totally made my night! 😘😘

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    Tabitha Blue
    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    I’m pretty much always in a “hurry out the door” look! Haha. Need this whitener in my life though!

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    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 4:32 pm

    It’s great that you have found a balance that works for you. I am the same with makeup, there’s always time in the morning for a least a quick touchup before leaving for the day!

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    Cynna Gordon | thentherewasfour
    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 7:04 pm

    What a cool product. I try to do my makeup everyday so I don’t feel like the worn out mom I really am. Lol

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    Rebecca Hicks
    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    I love that you were able to get some “momma time” because of Smile Brilliant! You deserve it!

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    Abby Darlington
    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    love your honesty in this post! I am currently 21 weeks with my first, so I’ll be in your shoes shortly!

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    Friday, November 17, 2017 at 11:32 pm

    Thanks for sharing this post, lovely. I am forever trying to balance things and make time for my loves ones, my home, me. It takes constant practice. Loved the whitening kit you’ve mentioned, Steph! Every momma deserves those special treats, even in the shape of a gorg white smile πŸ™‚
    xox Nadia

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    Saturday, November 18, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    I love that you take the time to still do your makeup! It’s important to have something for yourself!

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    Caitlin Patton
    Monday, November 20, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    Makeup is my “me time” every day! So important to make time for ourselves

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    Justine Y @ Little Dove
    Wednesday, November 22, 2017 at 4:16 am

    It can definitely be hard to find a balance and it’s important to take time for yourself, especially when you’re a busy momma!

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    Wednesday, November 22, 2017 at 4:27 am

    Taking care of ourselves is so important! I love your smile brilliant results too!

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    Wednesday, November 22, 2017 at 7:32 am

    I too am a makeup lover and no matter what whenever i get the chance to put it on i always am. It’s almost therapeutic!

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